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“No one is in control.  Control does not exist.  It is an illusion.”

“This isn’t true!  I am in control of my life.  I do what I want to do.  No one tells me what to do.  I am my own boss.  I keep myself safe and secure by maintaining control. ” 

Boy, do I wish that were true.  Unfortunately, we can’t control anyone outside of ourselves.  We can’t control how they act, how they think or how they feel.  If you think you can, then good luck.  You might be able to get someone to do what you want temporarily by cajoling them, paying them or intimidating them, but total control, all of the time?  We can’t even control ourselves.  We think things, feel things and do things that we don’t want to do – things we say we’ll never do. And, we still do them.  We can’t even control our own breath. 

If all of this is true, then how can we be safe and secure?  What can we depend upon?  These two questions surface an interesting belief.  Most of us believe that if we control things or people, then we will be safe – then life will be consistent or dependable.  Check this out next time you want someone to do what you want.  Ask yourself:  “Why do I want them to do it my way?”  I am suggesting, if you track it back, that you want them to do it your way because then you will feel safe and secure. 

There are a few things we can feel secure about and depend on in this world.  One is that the sun will show up tomorrow morning, and two, gravity will keep us and things from floating away, and three, we will keep breathing until we stop.  We can depend on these things.  We can feel secure that these things will continue on through time.  We can’t control them, we can only accept them, play with them and enjoy them.  They are constants.  Isn’t that nice? 

Feeling Safe and secure comes from something other than control.  It comes from being connected to that which is breathing you.  Go inside and find it.  The journey is filled with joy.

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